Wry Exchange

Mandatory Hosting Sucks
10-13-07, 10:46 pm
Filed under: Culture, Exchange Students, hosting | Tags: , , , , , , ,

Some people just shouldn’t host. So why do they? 
Most often, because they are required to host if their son or daughter is going out as an exchange student.   Some cultures don’t have a tradition of hosting strangers.  They’ll do anything for family or friends, but not ‘charity.’  Here in the US, we host high school, college, sports teams, and religious exchanges for varying amounts of time.   I know several people who love to host, including Husband and me. 
My program doesn’t have mandatory hosting in the US, but most of our overseas partners employ mandatory hosting.  I think mandatory hosting in the US is just laziness.  I placed over 30 students (mostly) myself two years ago, while a group had difficulty placing 20 kids this year.  Just ask…and ask…and ask….
Some organizations have mandatory hosting while the family’s child is gone, others wait until the student is back home, then they host.  Sparky’s family must host, but only part of the year is a must, they may choose to host all year.  The family isn’t looking at it as an obligation, but an adventure.  Sparky’s family is hosting Jon.  The boys may kill each other, but it’s a good placement.  Sparky has 2 younger brothers, they can see what it’s like to live in a new culture.  I hope Sparky2 will decide to come up here when he’s 16.  It’s especially nice since Sparky and Jon have a shared history.  I spoke to one of last year’s inbounds from Chile yesterday.  His family is enjoying their hosting of a young German girl.  
 M’s experience with Psycho Host-mommy isn’t uncommon.  Several of my students have been told ‘The only reason you’re here is because Precious is an exchange student.’  It NEVER occurs to these selfish clods that perhaps karma may bite Precious on the ass, and he could be a burden to someone.  Some of the mandatory hosting families treat the student like an intruder, as if the student had no right to be in their home.  They go on vacation without the kids, and tell them to ‘find a place to stay.’  They put the kids in a lesser quality school than the one their children attend.   If you are in a situation like this, MOVE.  IT WILL NOT IMPROVE.

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