Wry Exchange


The 4-D’s, Part 1
10-19-07, 5:58 pm
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The 4-D’s are NO drinking, driving, dating, or drugs.  They are supposedly the automatic termination violations.
The 4-D’s are drilled deeply into each exchange student’s head before and during exchange.  FES’s can recite them in their sleep.  The 4-D’s are probably the first words they learn in their new languages after “Where’s the bathroom?” “Thank you”, and “Fuck you.”  (Exchange students can all curse in at least 5 languages.)

  No Dating-The D’s are supposed to be shorthand, so FES’s can easily remember them.  Some adults interpret this strictly.  They don’t think the kids should be dating at all.  Obviously, they are idiots. (my blog, my opinions) The kids are told the rule is so they have a wide range of friends, and don’t spend all of their time with one person.  Others will tell FES it’s so they don’t get their hearts broken when they have to go home.  I think it’s just so no one gets knocked up.  “Be careful, and protect yourself.” is my unofficial advice.
  No Drinking-Somewhat flexible.  No one says anything when hostparents permit a glass of wine with dinner.  If FES is arrested, she’s going home.  FES once was arrested by the Liquor Control agents.  FES2 told FES1 to lie and assert she was 18, that it was better than being a minor.  That caused an even worse mess.  She was drinking a mix of vodka and root beer in a Gatorade bottle, the officer saw her drinking in the parking lot of a college bar.  She didn’t understand why he ‘picked on’ her.  Uh, Gatorade don’t make brown!
 No Driving-No discussion, do not pass ‘Go’, go straight home.  It’s a safety and liability issue.  Many countries don’t permit teens to drive until they’re 18.  We have strict laws in the US, they aren’t merely suggestions like in many parts of the world.  New drivers following new rules would be irresponsible of any program.  No one wants to ever call a parent to say your child has been in an accident.  FES’s don’t have car insurance or valid driver’s licenses.  They are not permitted to take Driver’s Ed, either.
 No Drugs-No discussion, automatic termination.  I’ve heard of students taking drugs across borders.  How stupid do you have to be to go through customs with marijuana, or to think a joint or 2 are great farewell gifts? 
 No Shit-Some of the little darlings look at the 4-D’s as challenges.  Who can break the most in the shortest amount of time?  at the same time?  FES’s get brave at the end of their stays when they think they’re going home soon anyway.



The 4-D’s, Part 2

 The 4-D’s are NO Drinking, Driving, Dating, or Drugs.  (This post is long, so Part 1 will be later in the week.  I started from the end, and worked backward.  See non-linear to the left.)

Just wait for the howling when the students to find out there may be more D’s added.  You’ll be able to hear it around the world.
5-Decorating or Defacing-no tattoos or piercings. 
6-Downloading- no porn or illegal music.
 Tattoos & piercings-The students are permitted to arrive with piercings and tattoos, but won’t be permitted to get any more while on exchange.  So how’s that going to work?  Will they strip down each kid upon arrival, and call out all ‘defacings’ to some guy holding a body outline on a clipboard?   I won’t ever give permission for a tongue piercing (Sparky wanted one so much, too.) because the kids are learning a new language, and they move their mouths in new ways.  It’s hard to enunciate clearly with a tongue ring, plus the dangers of cracking a tooth and stretching the hole.   Tattoos have been a right of passage probably since the first exchange student went abroad.  I prefer to pretend I didn’t see anything new.   Once students are 18, they’re legal adults, and I don’t feel I can stop them.  I certainly wouldn’t ship someone home early because of a new tattoo or piercing.  I would make sure mom and dad back home give their written permission for a minor for any body modification.
Downloads-More of the students are taking laptops with them on exchange, so this may not not be able to be monitored.  We tell the students that they can’t download ‘free’ music here in the states, that the host family may be sued.  I gave Sparky an Itunes card so he could download songs ‘free’ to him.  I hate giving the porn speech.  To my knowledge, no exchange student has ever downloaded porn, it magically appears on the computer.  I usually tell them that no matter how cleverly they think they’ve hidden the files, someone found them, so knock it off.  A  friend handled the porn problem really well-he told the kids no one but him was permitted to clear the computer’s history.  Great solution.  I hate porn on my computer, and I really hated all the times Paris Hilton’s sex tape appeared somehow.

Alternate version:
Do it
Don’t get caught
Do it again
Deny it/Don’t leave evidence
‘Don’t leave evidence’ means no photos.  A girl was terminated for serious dating a few years ago because someone saw her and her boyfriend ‘sharing their culture’ on her camera’s memory card. 



Invisible Woman
10-12-07, 10:12 pm
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I have magic powers.  Husband, I, and our cars are invisible.  I can’t think of any other explanation for the many people that pull out from cross roads in front of us. 
Husband and I ate a late lunch at a large, family owned restaurant today.  After we finished, our waitress brought a box for leftovers, and disappeared.  We waited and waited, and never saw her again.  After 20 minutes, I asked the hostess to find her.  SHE WENT HOME.  Another waitress had to go find the bill.  Husband and I heard them talking “But I don’t know what they had.”   They found the bill, we paid and left.   This is the second time in a month this has happened to us!   The first time was also a late lunch-at Chili’s.  The manager came to us, and insisted the meal was on him because we waited so long.  We tried to argue that we didn’t expect a free meal, we wanted to pay.  
We’ve never been dumped by servers before, to have it happen twice in a month is really weird.   We joked that if it happens again, we’re just leaving. (too much residual Catholic guilt to really dine ‘n dash.)