Wry Exchange

Orgies in Santiago?
03-25-08, 7:56 pm
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 First, a Newsweek article about orgies in Santiago.  Then read the opinion post from Chileno.   My opinion is these kids are probably from lower class families, and are rebelling.  I really have a difficult time believing the carabineros would permit orgies in city parks.
Rebels without Pause. Chile’s disaffected ‘Pokemones’ don’t care much about politics. They’re too busy having sex.
Ashley Steinberg
The teens call their public orgies ponceo. On a typical Friday afternoon in the Chilean capital of Santiago, hundreds gather in a leafy urban park for a few hours of sexual experimentation. Surrounded by passing strollers, they trade partners multiple times—mostly engaging in anonymous rounds of oral sex. When the party is over, no contact information is exchanged. Same-gender interactions are commonplace, as the lines between hetero- and homosexuality are blurred, partly by the alcohol and drugs consumed, but also by shifting social mores held by Chilean youth, in contrast to their conservative parents. “Ponceo is about having fun,” says Natalia Fernandez, a 15-year-old with pink hair and a pierced chin. “This time I had seven partners.”Fernandez, like many others in the park, is wearing an anime T-shirt. Drawing inspiration from Japanese anime culture, the teens refer to themselves as “Pokemones.” Their behavior, though, doesn’t quite resemble that of the cartoon characters that once obsessed young TV watchers around the world. “It’s shameless,” says Gina Mazzini Aliste, a middle-aged woman in the park that day. “They act like ponceo is a competitive sport.”Not surprisingly, the Pokemones have become the subject of a national debate in the media, as the conservative Catholic society grapples with this new affront to its traditional values. In a country where abortion is banned and divorce was legalized only a few years ago, and where the specter of Augusto Pinochet’s authoritarian regime still hovers over political discourse, the Pokemones are at once radical and inevitable. Radical because they are shocking Chilean society to its core. Inevitable because they are darlings of a booming neoliberal economy, which has provided them with all the material accoutrements necessary to be Pokemones. Yet along with sexual rebellion, these teens are also defined by their consumerism, a characteristic that neatly conforms to Chile’s free-market ideals. Continue reading

SEX and FES More Search Terms
01-16-08, 11:58 pm
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 Some of you have watched “American Pie” or “That 70’s Show” a little too often.  Not all exchange students are horny sluts or sexy studs.   I hope you’re looking for fantasy, and these are not actual searches.  
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Just knock it off, perverts, people!

Sexual Harassment of FES
12-28-07, 10:31 pm
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 The safety and well-being of students should always be the first priority.  All exchange student programs should have harassment policies.   This is the policy my program follows. 

 Sexual abuse: Sexual abuse refers to engaging in implicit or explicit sexual acts with a student, or forcing or encouraging a student to engage in implicit or explicit sexual acts alone or with another person of any age, of the same sex or the opposite sex. Additional examples of sexual abuse could include, but are not limited to: Non-touching offenses; Indecent exposure; Exposing a child to sexual or pornographic material.
Sexual harassment: Sexual harassment refers to sexual advances, requests for sexual favors or verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature. In some cases, sexual harassment precedes sexual abuse and is a technique used by sexual predators to desensitize or “groom” their victims. Examples of sexual harassment could include, but are not limited to: Sexual advances; Sexual epithets, jokes, written or oral references to sexual conduct, gossip regarding one’s sex life, and comments about an individual’s sexual activity, deficiencies, or prowess; Verbal abuse of a sexual nature; Displaying sexually suggestive objects, pictures or drawings Sexual leering or whistling, any inappropriate physical contact such as brushing or touching, obscene language or gestures and suggestive or insulting comments.
Is it Abuse or is it Harassment? Whether the alleged conduct amounts to sexual abuse or sexual harassment is not to be determined by the adult to whom allegations are made. After ensuring the safety of the student, all allegations should be immediately reported to appropriate law enforcement authorities. In some countries, this reporting is required by law.
Allegation Reporting Guidelines For use by all adults to whom a student reports an incident of abuse or harassment. Any adult to whom a student reports an incident of sexual abuse or harassment is responsible for following these Allegation Reporting Guidelines.
1. Report from Student
a. Listen attentively and stay calm. Acknowledge that it takes a lot of courage to report abuse. It is appropriate to listen and be encouraging. Do not express shock, horror or disbelief
b. Assure privacy but not confidentiality. Explain that you will have to tell someone about the abuse/harassment to make it stop and to ensure that it doesn’t happen to other students
c. Get the facts, but don’t interrogate. Ask the student questions that establish what was done and who did it. Reassure the student that s/he did the right thing in telling you. Avoid asking ‘why’ questions. Remember your responsibility is to present the student’s story to the proper authorities
d. Be non-judgmental and reassure the student. Do not be critical of anything that has happened or anyone who may be involved. It is especially important not to blame or criticize the student. Assure the student that the situation was not their fault and that they were brave and mature to come to you
e. Record- Keep a written record of the conversation with the student as soon after the report as you can, including the date and time of the conversation. Use the student’s words, and record only what has been told to you.
2. Protect the Student
Ensure the safety and well-being of the student. Remove the student from the situation immediately and all contact with the alleged abuser or harasser. Give reassurance that this is for the student’s own safety and is not a punishment
3. Report to Appropriate Law Enforcement Authorities. Immediately report all cases of sexual abuse or harassment to the appropriate law enforcement authorities first and then to program leadership for investigation.
4. Avoid Gossip and Blame. Do not tell anyone about the report other than those required by the guidelines. Care must be taken to protect the rights of both the victim and the accused during the investigation.
5. Do Not Challenge the Alleged Offender.  The adult to whom the student reports must not contact the alleged offender. In cases of abuse, interrogation must be left entirely to law enforcement authorities.
6. Follow-Up. After reporting allegations to the counselor or area program chair, follow up to make sure steps are being taken to address the situation. Specifically, we will conduct an independent and thorough investigation into any claims of sexual abuse or harassment. Any adult against whom an allegation of sexual abuse or harassment is made will be removed from all contact with youth until the matter is resolved.
Post Report Procedures. The student’s counselor and the area program chair chair are responsible for ensuring that the following steps are taken immediately following an abuse allegation is reported.
1. The adult to whom the student reports the abuse should follow the Allegation Reporting Guidelines.
2. Confirm that the student has been removed from the situation immediately and all contact with alleged abuser or harasser.
3. Contact appropriate law enforcement agency immediately (if not already done). If law enforcement agencies will not investigate, the area program chair should coordinate an independent investigation into the allegations.
4. Ensure the student receives immediate support services.
5. Offer the student an independent counselor to represent the interests of the student. Ask social services or law enforcement to recommend someone who is not in any way involved with the program.
6. Contact the student’s parents or legal guardian. If away from home, provide the student with the option of either staying in country or returning home.
7. Remove alleged abuser or harasser from all contact with the specific student and other youth while investigations are conducted.
9. The student’s counselor should inform the area program chair of the allegation. The area program chair must inform headquarters of the allegation within 72 hours, and provide follow-up reports of steps taken, the outcome of all investigations, and resulting actions.
Follow up care: There will need to be a cohesive and managed team approach to supporting the student after an allegation report. The student is likely to feel embarrassed, confused, and may become withdrawn and appear to be avoiding members of the host family or club. After a report of harassment or abuse, students may or may not want to remain on their exchange. If they do, they may or may not want to continue their relationship with their counselor depending on the circumstances. In some cases, a student may wish to remain in country, but change to a different area. It may be difficult for counselors and host families to understand how the student is feeling, but it would be helpful for the student to know that the counselor remains a support for them. Counselors and host families may experience ambiguity toward their roles and may feel unclear regarding their boundaries. However they need to do whatever is necessary to reassure the student of their support at all times.

The 4-D’s, Part 1
10-19-07, 5:58 pm
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The 4-D’s are NO drinking, driving, dating, or drugs.  They are supposedly the automatic termination violations.
The 4-D’s are drilled deeply into each exchange student’s head before and during exchange.  FES’s can recite them in their sleep.  The 4-D’s are probably the first words they learn in their new languages after “Where’s the bathroom?” “Thank you”, and “Fuck you.”  (Exchange students can all curse in at least 5 languages.)

  No Dating-The D’s are supposed to be shorthand, so FES’s can easily remember them.  Some adults interpret this strictly.  They don’t think the kids should be dating at all.  Obviously, they are idiots. (my blog, my opinions) The kids are told the rule is so they have a wide range of friends, and don’t spend all of their time with one person.  Others will tell FES it’s so they don’t get their hearts broken when they have to go home.  I think it’s just so no one gets knocked up.  “Be careful, and protect yourself.” is my unofficial advice.
  No Drinking-Somewhat flexible.  No one says anything when hostparents permit a glass of wine with dinner.  If FES is arrested, she’s going home.  FES once was arrested by the Liquor Control agents.  FES2 told FES1 to lie and assert she was 18, that it was better than being a minor.  That caused an even worse mess.  She was drinking a mix of vodka and root beer in a Gatorade bottle, the officer saw her drinking in the parking lot of a college bar.  She didn’t understand why he ‘picked on’ her.  Uh, Gatorade don’t make brown!
 No Driving-No discussion, do not pass ‘Go’, go straight home.  It’s a safety and liability issue.  Many countries don’t permit teens to drive until they’re 18.  We have strict laws in the US, they aren’t merely suggestions like in many parts of the world.  New drivers following new rules would be irresponsible of any program.  No one wants to ever call a parent to say your child has been in an accident.  FES’s don’t have car insurance or valid driver’s licenses.  They are not permitted to take Driver’s Ed, either.
 No Drugs-No discussion, automatic termination.  I’ve heard of students taking drugs across borders.  How stupid do you have to be to go through customs with marijuana, or to think a joint or 2 are great farewell gifts? 
 No Shit-Some of the little darlings look at the 4-D’s as challenges.  Who can break the most in the shortest amount of time?  at the same time?  FES’s get brave at the end of their stays when they think they’re going home soon anyway.